The 36-Year-Old Virgin and His Religious Beliefs
There's nothing wrong with my friend. He's a nice looking young man, educated, fluent in two languages and a sharp dresser. He was enormously successful in his field before he gave up his career to be a missionary in a foreign country. I think many young women would find him a suitable mate and he desperately wants to get married. So why is he still single?
My friend believes he was called to do missionary work, so he volunteered for a mission to spread the Gospel in a foreign country. Also, he strongly believes one should wait for marriage to have sex. He very much wants to marry a virgin who shares his beliefs. And he strongly believes that God will put that person in his life.
And this is where I believe his thinking is flawed. First, because he believes God will put that person in his life; he doesn't do anything proactive to meet that person. He doesn't network through friends or put himself online or seek opportunities to meet suitable women. To my way of thinking, he has left the "heavy lifting" up to God.
I'm sure I'm going to get hate email for saying this, but at 36 the number of age appropriate virgins that share his faith and would be interested in him is a dwindling number and a very small subset of the total number of woman who would otherwise be suitable for him. By continuing to wait for the man upstairs to put this beautiful God-fearing virgin in his life, he misses the opportunity to accomplish what he really wants, which is to fall in love and have a life and a family with someone who shares his faith.
My friend is a noble but sad individual. In a strange way, his religious beliefs have caused his thinking to be flawed in the same way that E. W. Jackson's beliefs have contorted his thinking. He has developed his theories about God, ("If I do the Lord's work, he will give me my heart's desire") and lives as if these were laws and not theories, which seems to be preventing him from achieving his most cherished goals.